the-victim-and-the-judge-self-esteem-courageous-self-confidence-mindfulness-1B1FM8G4Throughout my life I have noticed two specific people who have caused me more paralyzation, more failure, more heartache within my life than anyone else.

At times they are my closest friends. However, these people aren’t even people at all. They are roles that I play. And these roles sabotage my success. I call these two roles The Victim and The Judge.

In this episode

  • Why excuses are so dangerous to your success
  • Why talking down about yourself keeps you from achieving dreams
  • Why blaming external forces is actually false innocence
  • The single agreement with the Devil you make when you choose to not accept responsibility
  • How to assess which friends to let go of
  • The person you should punch in the face … metaphorically speaking 😉


Book: The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz

Book: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware

Book: The Concious Business by Fred Kofman

Bonus: Samuel’s personal confession of playing the victim

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The Victim and The Judge

This is not about an actual court room victim and judge, rather it’s two roles that you play in your head. Allow these roles to have a voice and they will relentlessly sabotage your success.

The Victim

The Victim says that it’s not your fault. The Victim looks at the situations around you and chooses to plead innocence.

The Victim says, “Oh poor me. Life is unfair, too hard, impossible…” The Victim is a quitter, and it’s never The Victim’s fault. The Victim is innocent. However, this innocence is false innocence. And it comes at a very high price.

The Judge

The second person that will sabatoge you from reaching your potential and kill your self-esteem even faster than the first, is The Judge.

The Judge says, “It is all your fault. You are no good. This world would be a better place if you didn’t exist.” These are all lies by the way. They are opinions. Sometimes these things are said by our close friends and family, people we may need to set up boundaries with.



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Samuel Hatton

Samuel Hatton


Samuel Hatton is the full-time marketing guy at Endsight – San Francisco Bay Area’s premium locally sourced computer technology support. He’s a multi-talented creative, natural encourager, and is full of courageous ideas.

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